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DandR4hands4men 50M/49M
412 posts
12/6/2019 11:41 am
Who?

This is the third poll question I have posted, and I want to thank all of you guys for sharing your thoughts, opinions and a part of yourselves with me! I am flattered, honored and privileged by the opportunity to know each of you a bit better, and thrilled that it feels much like an ongoing conversation at one of my sex parties! So thank you guys so much! Really!!!

So this string of threads of poll questions started with why some guys are interested in the homosexual group scene. Received some great input and valuable information, which lead to the second question. That one was about your ultimate fantasy, and boy, was it informative, enlightening, entertaining and so much fun. But honestly, the results surprised me...floored me actually. Which inspired my next question.

I was flabbergasted to learn that the fantasy most of you chose was a night of passion with someone you know. But you have my curious piqued at this point. So, who is this special someone you would love to spend one night with? is it a neighbor? A crush? A friend? A co-worker?

Time for me to learn a bit more about your guys! And thank you guys again!!! Perhaps i will give up my personal reflections and pictures and just ride the polls for a while! lol
A neighbor
A friend
A co-worker
A family member
An ex (playmate, lover, boyfriend, spouse)
A current (playmate, lover, boyfriend, spouse)
Service ( mailman, milkman, newspaper boy, cashier, bagger)
A stranger crush (guy at the gym, regular jogger/rider you see)
Possible gay 4 pay (bartender, stripper, hustler, escort, etc.)
Other...but you don't have to be too specific in your comments!


darkcappacino 49M
23 posts
12/6/2019 5:35 pm

First and foremost, don't give up the pictures, and the memories and stories of your life! Just throw in a poll every now and then.

This one was tough for me. I couldn't decide if I wanted to relive a moment with someone I have already been with, or create a new memory with someone I know, like and may even love, but haven't shared an intimate encounter with yet.

I opted for the devil I know. Ha!


DandR4hands4men replies on 12/7/2019 8:26 am:
I can understand your debate. I've had some damn fine lovers I would lover to revisit again. But then again, there are a couple of friends who know me well, and I have watched and seen enough to think, Damn! That might be fun. I haven't actually voted yet, but you did help me push the scale in one direction, so thanks!

By the way, I will be returning to my old ways, hopefully soon. The supposedly helpful post got no feedback and the polls have been so fun and popular. But I will be returning to what I know best soon, so those pictures will keep coming!

Ica915bob99 69M
436 posts
12/6/2019 6:30 pm

for me i do not care who they are.


DandR4hands4men replies on 12/7/2019 8:29 am:
So you are into anonymous sex partners? I'm actually not sure how I feel about your answer really. Might be time for another blog post! lol Thank you for responding!

SCBrooke 24M
2047 posts
12/6/2019 6:41 pm

I would really like to be with him, away from the others, longer than a few minutes. And believe it or not, not in any attempt to "seduce" but to better get to know each other individually. I will leave it at that.


DandR4hands4men replies on 12/7/2019 8:32 am:
Sounds like someone here is a bit of a romantic! Good for you! I am in my more meaningful relationships...husbands, boyfriends, etc. But more of the men in my life don't desired nor required it!

Glad I'm not the last of a dying breed! lol

Hungr4Yungr 70M
4922 posts
12/6/2019 6:55 pm

I have a life-long friend who is straight as an arrow, but I have always wanted to spend a night in bed with him. Maybe not having sex, but talking and feeling each other up. I'd love to share a kiss, but that would probably be asking too much.


DandR4hands4men replies on 12/7/2019 8:37 am:
I understand. I have one friend of about ten years, and a couple I went to school with. The one in particular though, we are so opposites, you'd think we would be enemies, but we really have one of the best friendships. Been through some shit with one another. There is a deep love there that hasn't turned intimate. Actually, I think I might have missed my chance at him, but if the opportunity presented itself again, I would have to pursue it as far as I could without jeopardizing our relationship as really good and close friends.

hate_Fakes 35M
8774 posts
12/6/2019 7:33 pm

A long time friend...........but unable to get him out and away to seduce him... probably more valued as a friend than sex mate. ALSO what do you mean by emailing calling me a racist?


DandR4hands4men replies on 12/7/2019 8:44 am:
Sweetpea, I do not recalling even emailing you, and certainly would not call you a racist, given our history. We will have to look into this, because that is not the way I roll and you should know that!

Now, I was just saying, that with the friend, the question is, is it worth changing or jeopardizing the friendship to satisfy that craving, that yearning? I think it might be best to wait it out , and let him make all the moves towards advancing things.

And again, if we have an issue between us, let's figure out what happened. But I'm certain I wouldn't do that, and certainly not to you!

strtsexboy_1 59M
534 posts
12/6/2019 8:40 pm

A yng slim skinny bottom boy and make videos too for my Xtube, but some of you knew that I was going to say that LMAO


DandR4hands4men replies on 12/7/2019 8:48 am:
It is the second time someone has said something to bring this question to mind. So I am going to put it out there.

Does it not cheapen or lessen the importance of your more significant relationships to say that you would rather have your ultimate fantasy night with someone you don't know, over all the other people you have known or been with in the past?

jrodd 61M
3459 posts
12/6/2019 9:46 pm

First of all somebody has to like me first or whats the point?


DandR4hands4men replies on 12/7/2019 8:57 am:
So, you would be more inclined to go with a friend, because they already like you as a person? Or maybe an ex of some sort, because they have already been intimate with you. Maybe a good neighbor? Or a mailman who has been on the route for years. Someone like your regular spotter at the gym? I'm assuming most of these people would like you to some degree.

So the point would be, now that the hurdle has been jumped. You know they like you in some way. Which one would you mostly likely choose to have a night with?

browsingeye 30M
9 posts
12/7/2019 10:06 am

This is a good question, and I wish we could pick multiple options, haha.


DandR4hands4men replies on 12/8/2019 9:13 am:
I think we all would actually! But this question actually stems from one, asking about your ultimate fantasy...guaranteed! One night, the ultimate fantasy...who would it be with!

Makes you feel better, there are 25 on my list, and I've even decided that if my next man is like me, we will have a cheat list of about 50, so some celebrities and new guys could be added. Blake Harper and Cris Judd will not be around for ever! LOL

btccu4 59M
108 posts
12/8/2019 8:08 am

Wow a lot to choose from, mine would be a ex boyfriend we were together for some time but as always all good things come to a end. He had a fantastic job and his company transferred him the the other side of the United States................DAM !! but we still talk and email each other but it's just not the same.


DandR4hands4men 50M/49M
800 posts
12/8/2019 9:18 am

I completely understand. The familiar, the tried and true, might be a way to know you would have a good time. I have two that got away and three dead husbands. I've had twelve relationships with thirteen guys...a throuple for two years. Believe me, recycling some of those guys would be AWESOME. And of course, my regular, long time readers know about Sawyer, my long distance relationship at this point.


wildt2k2 42M
52 posts
12/8/2019 3:41 pm

omg so many hot choices i cant choose i mean yea have to me familiar for me to well come out and see if they are interested or need some relief but with the options you gave up there, just cant choose one


DandR4hands4men replies on 12/10/2019 7:46 am:
The genie in the bottle could only guarantee one for each of us! Sorry! lol

bjhogan 62M  
1316 posts
12/8/2019 3:42 pm

hmmmm ? JUST ONE NITE ? LOL i supose i would lovvvvvve ONE more NITE with BARKLEY !! i always felt cumfortable with him ! in private as well as in public ! i really don't know why we drifted apart ? since the SEXXX was always HOT & NASTY !! and yes we still check in on each other ! and still go out on ocasion ! perhaps it was his CANCER scare he had ! maybe he fears he can't PERFORM like he used to !! ? who knows ?


DandR4hands4men replies on 12/10/2019 7:50 am:
I'm sorry to hear about Barkley, though thrilled it was just a cancer scare. Seems like you ought to be good enough friends though that you could at least find out why things changed. New lease on life? Medication issues? Another relationship? Or perhaps you were just too damn much for him! lol

jrodd 61M
3459 posts
12/8/2019 8:55 pm

Yes i could hardly stand the idea of meeting a stranger although it may be a matter of neccessaty one possible day,mayby.


DandR4hands4men replies on 12/10/2019 7:52 am:
New Year's Resolution for you...focus a bit more on your social and personal life. 2020 could be your year!!!

Masiello6592 27M
285 posts
12/9/2019 11:46 am

When exercising client's dogs, I first met "him" along the route. I had two on their leads, his puppy was not on his as he was in the process of training his almost adult dog in behaving off lead. I hope it makes sense because it is important with the next phase. As we were rounding the corner, I saw him first. I stopped and lead my dogs to sit. His dog bolted toward me, of course my dogs took this as aggression but have been trained to "hold in place". They were like stone objects, lol! Of course, he was attempting to call his dog back and to replace the lead. It was so cute watching this "stranger" trying to get control of this pup. Also, the whole time we were looking at each other, just like the dogs were!! Of course, he was apologizing over and over. My two holding still, I am staying put, and he is scrambling around us attempting to grab his dog's collar. As I was watching him turn more I managed to get both leads on my right arm. I stepped out from behind my dogs, asking "the stranger" his name. I then called to him, he came within grabbing distance and I was able to clinch his collar as he snapped on the lead. At this time, we had a small conversation and introduction in a way. He doesn't live in the area full time but visits at least once a month. I do look for his vehicle and when I see it, I walk dogs! lol. When he does see me, he always speaks and approaches the dogs, asking about them and what has been going on. I really look forward to these times. These meetings, on my end anyway, are "sexually" charged events and yes, I am aroused just talking to him.


DandR4hands4men 50M/49M
800 posts
12/10/2019 7:58 am

I calling this...Bitches in heat! lol

I have done this a few times myself. There was the hot jogger I met once, but that led to something and I kind of screwed it up. There was the guy down the street but I only got to see him in a towel once. And of course, everyone knows about the time I was checking out a guy and walked into a stop sign. Hell, i even got a couple of dates out of that.


OralXzam 40M
39 posts
12/10/2019 9:11 am

I can think of about ten guys I would love to suck some more. Multiple and or heavy cummers, beautiful cocks, tasty loads, some that even felt like the sperm was still swimming in it!


DandR4hands4men replies on 12/11/2019 10:45 am:
Geesh! Sound like these guys should be invited to my next cock sucking party! lol

strtsexboy_1 59M
534 posts
12/14/2019 11:03 pm

No one....yet but want to do a yng slim smooth skinny bottom, and make videos


DandR4hands4men replies on 12/15/2019 1:30 am:
Sounds like someone might have a New Year's resolution here! 2020 sounds like a good year to do it!

DandR4hands4men 50M/49M
800 posts
12/15/2019 1:34 am

I'm finding a few things on here shocking. One, that so many of you or us, have voted for friends. I have enjoy the company of most of my friends at least one, minus the ones I have here. lol So I guess we are not the complete horn dogs...no man is safe...beings some people think of us!

The other thing is that no one has opted for the person they are currently with. I realize that that might qualify as a fantasy come true, but if I was still with three of my ex boyfriends, or any of my late husbands, I would be pleased as fuck...literally! lol


adickted18 43M
178 posts
12/15/2019 11:27 pm

I have a coworker that I frequently fantasize about. He doesn't know. Or my old boyfriend Marc. We always have really intense sex. He moved and occasionally comes back but not often enough!


DandR4hands4men replies on 12/17/2019 11:49 am:
Because I have always told everyone when I was hired I was gay, I have always had at least one playmate of sorts at each job I held. Retail, restaurants and the gay bars were easy. Museums, hospitals and the Census Bureau, not so much! lol

DandR4hands4men replies on 12/17/2019 11:52 am:
Damn! We have a bit in common. One of my late husband's name was Mark. And my long time regular readers know of my now over two year long distance relationship with Sawyer. It has been five years total, and just came up last week to celebrate his birthday with me! But as you said, it is never, ever enough! lol

Cummasseur 49M
71 posts
12/16/2019 9:20 pm

I have at least one of each of those listed under gay for pay! lol


DandR4hands4men replies on 12/17/2019 11:54 am:
One bartender, One stripper, One hustler, One escort? Some of them do know how to work it, don't they? lol Some might say you and I might qualify here? LOL

jrodd 61M
3459 posts
12/20/2019 4:55 am

I found myself reminicing about guys long ago in the far past wishing somehow they were still around or is just old age all the old memories from eons ago? Perhaps strangly the long lost long ago ones seem to be my favourites but I know now it will never happen again sadly.


DandR4hands4men replies on 12/23/2019 8:22 pm:
I would never say never. I am a strong advocate for recycling men. And have done a lot of it over the years. But especially around certain holidays, I feel the need to revisit some of my favorites. The men I loved, the ones that got away, best kissers, best cocks, best asses, etc.In my warped mind, I'm spending part of the holidays with them as well, in spirit.

romanticXscort 49M
51 posts
12/22/2019 8:37 pm

Because of my line of work, you might think I went one way, but actually, there has always been at least one co-worker at each of my jobs that I would have loved to have entertained!


DandR4hands4men replies on 12/23/2019 8:23 pm:
I bet the work day wasn't nearly as long, when you have someone to fill in the gaps...sort of speak. lol

jrodd 61M
3459 posts
12/25/2019 7:24 am

Yes sit at home alone feeling into the sex love memories of a long ago past of those i felt crushes for but never had actual phisical contact with even ones who werent the best at sex but could have been at least much better than what i have or have not now steered into an unhappy course well off my path the fears kept me isolated severly from those i seek to be with.I wasted my life with an asexual gay man (non-sexual) to stay safe and instead feel like a dead man myself sacrificing myself to be with this cold robot of a horrible man .Oh hell why did i chose this path?


DandR4hands4men replies on 12/30/2019 10:52 pm:
There is nothing work with finding LOVE with someone who doesn't have you sex drive. Compromises and rules, maybe some negotiations to figure out how to satisfy your needs without violating the sanctity of the relationship. after all, you would only be seeking sexual gratification. So if you are still with this guy, you have some work to do. If not, you need to find a way to get beyond your fears. Frottage could be a good solution for you, if you can find someone into that. Do everything with a condom on. Sure it takes away from the intimacy, and don't get me started with sucking a covered dick, but it can be done.

I may have to get another blog on here to dispense advice. lol But if I do, don't certain people come after me about it! LOL

DandR4hands4men replies on 12/30/2019 10:55 pm:
Sweetpea, I read your blog. And if you are interested in like a group therapy, advice column type of thing, let me know. I think we could work that out, without me getting into the blog wars about multiple blogs.

bjhogan 62M  
1316 posts
12/26/2019 3:18 pm

there are Quite a few profiles of men on outpersonals i would lovvvvvve to service ! unfortunatley they live toooo far away !


DandR4hands4men replies on 12/30/2019 11:04 pm:
Don't I know it! I travel some and can't met any of them. I have meet one locally, who has since moved. I should take that back, there is another one I met at the bars before I knew he was on the site. In fact, I almost went home with him once, but it didn't work out that night. He either hasn't figured out who I am, or truly lost interest in...Impossible! LOL

The thing that truly let me know how bad things are is...there is a huge race in Indianapolis every year. I have offered to use my home as bed and breakfast for their time here. Think about it...free room and board while they are here, a tour guide, a maid, a great cook, a masseur, and can even plan a party or two while they are here, and still, not one person has ever taken me up on my offer. To me, that means neither head works that great! lol

DownNOut2 50M
10 posts
12/28/2019 8:05 am

I actually have a very special friend I would love to have one night with. since we have kind of explored and talked about it, to see the fruition of it happens could be amazing!


DandR4hands4men replies on 12/30/2019 11:06 pm:
I call those fantasies turned realities. I have had several, and none of them have left a bad taste in my mouth! lol Most have come back for seconds and thirds, and one is up to about a dozen!

jrodd 61M
3459 posts
1/8/2020 3:15 am

Oops Sorry i guess i forgot this wasnt supposed to be a advice blog


DandR4hands4men replies on 1/9/2020 11:30 am:
No! No! No! No, sweetie! I would love to do an advice, group therapy kind of blog. But we know how some people feel about multiple profiles and stuff around here.

jrodd 61M
3459 posts
1/9/2020 5:42 am

I apreciate the comments anyways.


DandR4hands4men replies on 1/9/2020 11:36 am:
What I was aiming at, is maybe the questions could be posts on your blog, and we could discuss it there.

I can do it occasionally here, but between the parties, my work and my life, the opportunities may not come that often. But I will try, if you are not interested.

I don't think the blogs were ever suppose to turn into a war zone. Smart one might give some insight into the people behind them, give us a better chance to get to know them. Some may educate and some may entertain. But some can use theirs to hurt others, I can certainly try to do something to help those who might want or need it.

jrodd 61M
3459 posts
1/10/2020 5:11 am

    Quoting jrodd:
    I apreciate the comments anyways.
Some what you say is thoughtful to me and others .As for blog war zones Im stuck dead center uniquely in the no-mans zone bettween two strongly oposing parties .My position is I am looking for the truth watching and observing thier behaviours.Sometimes I feel both sides wanta stomp all over me as the cannons blast from the left and the right and the cannon balls bounce left to right and right to left feeling rather puzzled and confused.The truth is never clear but leaking out in spits n spurts.Perhaps even though I felt conflicted for some reason I just hunker down in my war helmet In the trenches looking for some clue or sign that leads to some evidence of factual content.But thats life anyways a war zone full of conflict.


DandR4hands4men replies on 1/12/2020 12:03 pm:
I appreciate the fact that you have found some use in what I have to say. By the way, I think you have found that there is a solution to the advice column, group therapy thing.

DandR4hands4men replies on 1/12/2020 12:09 pm:
I have done a good job at staying away from the battle of the blogs here. It would be easy for me to pick a side if I chose to do so, but honestly, it just seems like wasted effort, energy and talent, so I just refuse to engage. If they have nothing else to do with their time, and nothing to share of their own volition, I can let them do their thing, whatever it may be, as long as it doesn't affect me.

jrodd 61M
3459 posts
1/10/2020 6:11 am

Yes in order to understand them and what they are is this.The content of what they describe as themself or thier multiple themselves split up persona as a whole is insignificant as a stack of masks in the closet.A story for each mask leads to a singularity of one guy or two.Its nothing but a distraction.You can can see quite clearly thier signatures repeated multiple times is the same guy persona so clearly marked in thier psycology blueprints.What goes on In thier real life when they leave behind thier digital machines is still rather puzzling to me ,we may never know we only know thier personality, and a leak to a vague clue.One side is the Inquisitor,I like him because he asks all the questions and I want the truth as he does seek it too but hes deluded by his own anger and rage rather than just be a good investigator the other guy plays a chess game and is a deceptive aperson and a bit diabolical but I think he is going to remain here stubbornly wether the inquistor likes it or not.In any case the smart ass is pleasant to talk with and will draw you into his illussionary world if you wish it .On the other side is questionable elements too but i think they seem to be more honest and want to eliminate a resident foe.


DandR4hands4men 50M/49M
800 posts
1/12/2020 12:17 pm

I have said this before, I don't care if someone has one hundred blogs or profiles on here. I don't see how that is hurting anyone, if they are attacking anyone. I don't even care if they are real or not. If they are contributing to my entertainment, education or thought provoking process, I'm good. But also feel like some may have the talent to do more than one. If a guy can write songs, he can write poems. But if he is also a great cook, he can blog about cooking. That's two separate blogs from the same guy. And if he has other skills and talents, he could have even more. To me, it is irrelevant. They might want to look at the blog section of the cleaned up version of this site...Gay Friend Finder, and decided which they would rather see.


jrodd 61M
3459 posts
1/13/2020 5:35 am

Then i presume you like profiles of people who dont exist.Perhaps one day youll be talking to artificial intelligence that can compose even better than humans can like an Alexa or something like a machine or mayby nothing but a ghost or fabrications of the imaginings held within each deceptive holgraphic Images of illusions a non human that we can dream on for a lifetime about untill well get old and meet our end without human contact ever happening.


DandR4hands4men replies on 1/28/2020 7:29 am:
I actually wouldn't mind dealing with a profile that had no real person or being behind it. Sure, blogs can provide insight and a better picture of who is behind it. But part of the reading blogs thing is about me, and not the writer. I can learn, enjoy, be amused by, and even engage in thought process by something with artificial intelligence.

I think the movie was Lexi, with that lovely Adam Devine, where that thing behind the voice of Lexi took over his life. But I think I would enjoy having a meaner version, to tell me when to shut the fuck up and shit! lol

DandR4hands4men 50M/49M
800 posts
1/28/2020 8:12 am

Damn! No one has a hot mailman, or newspaper boy? Not a favorite cashier or bagger at your local grocery store? And even a sexy UPS or FedEx delivery guy?

You poor unfortunate souls! lol